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What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality. ~Plutarch

I liked this so much I had to post it on my blog. Inner achievement is the hardest work around and yet its what really will change our outer world. Loving ourselves unconditionally, ending the negative self-talk, and accepting what is causes others to treat us better, helps us handle life’s stressors, and brings us greater satisfaction with our life.

What we achieve…

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Posted by on August 25, 2013 in Uncategorized


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Time to blossom

“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
—Anais Nin

For several weeks, I burrowed myself down into the dead earth of negativity. I saw the wrong in every thing, every one. I felt my soul drying up and my heart getting hard. Confession: I held onto my “everything is ok and happy” facade for a while. I think those closest to me felt the incongruity of my positive words and the negativity emanating from my very being.

I closed tightly into myself, kept the bud of my joy on lock-down. Why? I don’t know. I could list off a handful of reasons but those are just guesses. Hormones, stress, moving, fussy baby…  BLAH! Guesses? or Excuses? Doesn’t really matter. I figured it out before negativity took root too deeply or permanently. Whew!

It feels so much better to risk blossoming… to risk being happy… to risk putting good stuff into the world, not knowing where or how it will land.  Embracing life with arms wide and light shining from my eyes energizes me, quenches some unexplainable thirst.

Blossoming, embracing happiness – it’s work. But it’s honorable work. When I want to lash out, bite and sting others with my words or actions, I breathe deeply, close my eyes, take a beat. When I start the negative self talk and run anger scenarios in my mind, I shake my head and clear my brain like an etch-a-sketch. I remind myself I want to sow seeds of kindness, joy, positivity… I want this blossoming garden tended to with gentle, loving intention and attention.

Yeah, weeds will pop up now and then… because that’s just life and human nature. I’ll dispose of them as needed.

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Posted by on March 29, 2013 in Lessons Learned


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Lessons Learned From My 7-Week-Old Son

#1 Stretch when you first wake up… He stretches his whole body. Pulls in his limbs and then out they go in all 4 directions. He arches his little back to one side and then the other. I tried it. It feels good. Especially stretching my arms out way over my head. Makes me breathe in deeply and get more oxygen. That’s never a bad thing.

#2 Greet the morning with lots of smiles and giggles. When he smiles and giggles at me first thing in the morning, its contagious. Of course I smile and giggle back at him. Imagine if we all smiled at people first thing in the morning instead of grumbling?  People would smile back at us and we’d all start feeling just a little bit happier. I know that’s how I feel when we have that little exchange.

#3 Don’t sit in your own mess for too long, it will start sticking to you. My son doesn’t like having a poopy diaper for too long. He’ll definitely tell me about it, too. (After all, he still needs help w/ his ‘messes’.) If it’s been a little too long, the yuckies sometimes stick. We all make messes in our lives… The sooner we clean it up, the sooner we can get on w/ the rest of life. And, it is ok if you need help cleaning it up. You just have to let someone know you need a hand.

These may no-brainers for most people. And, of course, I knew all the above before my son came into my life. But he reminded me in a way that stuck more poignantly… 

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Posted by on January 1, 2013 in Uncategorized


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